Imagine scrolling through endless profiles. You may find a perfect match. You begin to feel your thumb cramp, as well as the glare in your eyes. And then, suddenly, it dawns on you that you know nothing about what you’re trying to do. Social skills training can help men pursue success in love. What if you’re not sure what to do? The online dating coach is the perfect solution for male singles.
The experience of online dating can sometimes be like searching for a needle while blindfolded. This is not about just clicking right or leaving; this is about creating meaningful connections. The right coach will help you be different from others, as well as boost your own confidence.
We’ll dive in to some of the most important strategies and tactics that coaches suggest.
Create your profile
First impressions matter. You can think of your profile in terms of a digital handshake. Coaches advise focusing on authentic rather than flawless. What makes you tick? Share two stories to show off your uniqueness, such as what motivates you, your hobbies, and how you express yourself.
Try this instead: “Last July, I climbed Mount Rainier. Nearly got blown over by the winds at the summit!” Create a vivid image that sparks interest.
The importance of photos is greater than we think
The photos you take should have a purpose. Stop taking bathroom selfies, and avoid blurry group pictures where you can’t be identified. Use images with high-quality that demonstrate different aspects in your daily life, including travel, hobbies, and moments spent candidly with friends.
It is possible that the coach will suggest having professional photographers take photos. Think about this extreme example: Would sweatpants be worn to an interview for a new job?
Mastering Conversation is a Conversational Art.
The match is made, but what now? You can either make or break a relationship with the first message. Don’t use generic phrases like “Hey!” “What up?” It’s better to use something that is specific and relevant from your profile.
Imagine seeing someone in their profile mention that they love dog. You might say something like, “I know you’re dog lovers!” “What’s your dog’s name?” You can start an interesting conversation with this simple, yet powerful question.
Balance between humor and seriousness
Humor can be attractive, but it’s not something you should force. You’re funny by nature, so let it show! Do not try to make yourself funny. Be genuine, kind and sincere.
Another client shared a great example of how humor can be used to make a point: he noticed his date had photos taken from all over the world, so he said “Are YOU Carmen Sandiego?” He was delighted by her response!
How to deal with rejection
Everyone gets rejected. Brad Pitt, too (ok maybe not Brad Pitt) is ghosted occasionally. They stress the need to remain resilient. Do not let rejection stop you from searching for a partner.
Remember that with each “no”, you’re closer to meeting someone willing to say “yes”.
• Setting Realistic Expectations
While it is easy to become swept up in fantasy when viewing profiles, you must also keep your expectations grounded in the real world! Nobody is perfect — including yourself. That’s ok!
As Hollywood depicts, finding love can take time and patience.
Finally… wait, let’s not conclude today. There you have it, folks! A sneak peak into the way an online dating mentor for men turns swipes in to dates and those dates into potentially romantic relationships. Let’s have some fun and hope Cupid strikes soon.